I’m going to pose a scenario of sorts and a question to anyone reading this blog and hope that someone can help me, because i’m slightly stuck in the place i’m at.
A lot of you may know about a specific chapter of my book, the one that most people seem to be the most excited to read. If you don’t, I don’t want to give too much away about it, but basically I was attacked online by a group of women (strangers.)
I never addressed it on the blog because it was such a ridiculous and ongoing situation that I didn’t want to inflame it any farther by bringing more attention to it.
When I started the book I KNEW I wanted to write about it. Online bullying is something that needs more attention brought to it, and since it happened to me, I thought I could shed some light. Plus I really wanted to finally be able to tell the story, since never before have I had the chance to explain everything that happened… and i’m dying to tell it. It’s been eating at me that I haven’t yet- so this is my chance.
I wrote the chapter and had a few friends read over it to see what they thought- and they came back with the same conclusion I had about it: I come off as defensive. A lot of lies were told about me, horrible lies, ones I never openly disputed. I want the chapter to be completely honest- but I don’t want to sound like i’m defending myself to a jury.
How can I not, though? If I am honest about everything that was said about me, shouldn’t I then also say what the truth actually is?
I’m between a rock and a hard place. I’m inching closer in the editing process to that chapter, and I know it needs to be changed, but I don’t know how to do it. I’m honestly dreading getting to that chapter and reading again how whiny I sound. I was a victim, yes, but I don’t want to sound like i’m playing that as my only card. I don’t want it to come out as “poor poor me”, but I also feel like it’s so important that my point of view gets out there. Does that make sense?
So how do I do it? How do I tell the full and true story, from my side, of being attacked by a group of women without sounding defensive?? Help!
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