Today I was asked how we came up with the name Holden. When I responded it was from the book ‘The Catcher in the Rye”, it was met with confusion. The person asking said that they thought the name was from some European car manufacturer.
Do I seem like the type of person who would name my child after a brand of cars??
This wasn’t the first time someone had either never heard of the book his name came from, or if they had- it just didn’t click that that’s where it was from even though Holden Caulfield is the most famous Holden I can think of.
The book has always been my favorite, and a book I think everyone should read at least once- so I guess I get a little miffed when people don’t know the meaning behind it, or why I would name my child after the main character.
Names don’t always have to have a deeper meaning- Parker’s doesn’t really. I had an entire list of names for boys that I liked when we first found out Parker was a boy, but either they just didn’t feel right- or Thomas flat out hated them.
While his name might not have that meaning that Holden’s does, as soon as we came across it while making fun of other names in a random baby name book as we were shopping for baby clothes- it just clicked. As soon as we said it outloud, we knew it was the perfect name for our unborn child.
What I find to be the most interesting part of the naming process (if you happen to name your child before they are born)- is to see how they grow into the name you have given them. People always wonder if their child’s name will “fit”. If it will match their personality. I know plenty of women who have worried that they chose the wrong name.. their baby just doesn’t “look” like the name they gave them.. And somehow, as if we have some kind of intuition as to the type of person and the type of personality our child will grow to have- the name ALWAYS fits. It always ends up being the perfect name, whether the child agrees with it or not (I hated my name growing up, still kind of do, but i’m sure others would say it fits).
Even I wasn’t sure Holden looked like a Holden. How do you look like a name, really? I can even remember a friend of ours telling me I was really setting myself up by naming him Holden- because his namesake from the book is headstrong, adventurous and stubborn among other things- and she was right. Holden is just like the Holden we named him after (minus all the bad.. so far.. and hopefully forever. Read the book and you’ll know what I mean). The name is nothing short of perfect for him.
My nephew’s name- Preston- fits him just right too. It’s funny because I always considered the name sort of.. wimpy. Prissy, whiny, rich kid type of name (as stereotypical as that sounds). Even though my brother is NONE of those things- Preston is exactly like his name. I love the kid, but he is a petite, clingy, whiny little thing if I ever saw one.
If you name your daughter Taylor, chances are she will be tomboyish and play sports. Sure, she could buck the trend.. but in a lot of ways I feel like a baby grows into a name, instead of a name growing to fit them. All the female Taylors i’ve ever known have always fit the “type”.
If you name your kid Percy, he’ll probably be an oversized bully.. just to spite you for naming him such a horrible name.
So I guess now i’m left to wonder if Parker will be a Parker.. and what is a Parker really? I imagine the name to be.. unique, but not too out there.. maybe the creative type, fun and easy-going. Only time will tell as Parker grows out of baby-lump stage and really starts to show his personality. Since i’ve never known anyone with the name Parker, it’s a little harder for me to pinpoint the type of name it really is.. but I don’t think i’ve cursed him by naming him that (as I would have by naming him something like Billy-Bob or Bubba). As it almost always goes with babies- only time will tell.
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