WARNING: pity party alert!
Every baby deserves a party. I am in the group of thought that regardless of how many kids you have, every new addition deserves some kind of celebration (well.. with exception. If you’re on kid #20, you should be donating your uterus to a museum instead of popping more out, but that’s just my opinion). Asking for presents on kid #4 is one thing (unless you’ve had 3 boys and this is a girl.. then it’s understandable), but why not celebrate a new life coming into this world? It’s an excuse to get together, have fun, and get excited for your new arrival.. so why not, right?
I’ll admit that i’m still bitter about my baby shower for Holden. It had nothing to do with the planning or the party itself. The party was great, the food was awesome, the games were fun.. but no one showed up. Two friends out of everyone i’d invited (of course some family was there, but in a way I think that’s sort of to be expected). I was so disappointed at how many calls and texts I got the day of the shower from people saying they couldn’t make it for such and such reasons. Here I was, so amped to have a huge baby shower and all my friends around me.. and it didn’t happen. Maybe my friends just kind of suck.. maybe it’s because my Dad’s house (where it was held) is waaayyy out in the ‘country’, who knows- I just know I still feel a little burned.
I wasn’t completely expecting a baby shower for this baby. Did I want one? Sure. Just wasn’t sure anyone would offer, and was worried the same thing would happen all over again.. but when a friend of mine offered to throw one I was totally amped.
There hasn’t been much in this pregnancy i’ve really looked forward to. It’s been pretty stressful- but I was really looking forward to having a baby shower for him…
And then my friend backed out.
Now what? No one else has offered.. time is winding down.. and i’m really sad about the whole thing. The one thing (other than actually holding my baby) I was really excited about was now quickly drifting away. How tacky would it be to have to throw one for myself when every baby shower i’ve ever heard of and ever been to was thrown by someone else? How sad would it be to have to ASK someone to throw my baby shower?
It feels sort of pathetic that I only had one person ask. Then again, I don’t have a lot of close friends who have kids, or live near me.. There’s not many people who if they were pregnant, i’d offer to throw a shower for so I wasn’t expecting an outpouring of people begging for the task.. would have been nice though.
A large part of me feels like this baby is sort of getting the shaft, which I don’t want. The last thing I want him to feel is (as my friend Erika calls it) “the second child syndrome.”
All hand me down stuff, nothing is as good as what Holden got.. etc etc.
I’ve tried to avoid that as much as possible- sure this baby is getting a ton of hand me downs but so did Holden, and just as Holden deserved a party- so does baby #2.
So where to go from here? Not really sure. Maybe by the grace of… something… it’ll work out. I’m trying not to be a huge pessimist about the entire thing- but I think anyone in my situation would be sad and disappointed.
Getting huge, fat, and blowing out your vagina without a party to celebrate it? What’s the point, then?!
Roadtrip me takes joy in watching the kids panic as the life drains from their electronics. Yes, I brought chargers. They don't know that.
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Frying pans. Who knew, right? pic.twitter.com/usSQcFGpmI
Just did this yesterday and it was everything 9 year old me could have dreamed of pic.twitter.com/imYQlUmSVn
LIVE on Twitch tonight -- come say hi! twitch.tv/holdinholden
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