Get counseling, not divorced!

More and more people these days give up on their marriage because it isn’t “perfect” without really trying to fix the underlying problems. If marriage was easy, it wouldn’t be so great. It’s important to remember that it takes work to maintain a healthy open relationship.
The National Institute of Marriage wants people to start asking questions and getting involved in making their relationship a stable one before just throwing in the towel and getting divorced. The national divorce rate today is 50%!
I myself have watched people get married, only to get divorced under 6 months later. They didn’t try counseling to make things better, they just gave up before their marriage ever had a chance.

Marriage is nothing to take lightly, this is you and your partners life and your future together. If you have problems- try to work them out. You CAN have a happy marriage. If counseling doesn’t work- no one can say you didn’t give it your all.

Here is the National Institute of Marriage’s press release, it explains things better than I can!

“With the national divorce rate around 50%, there is no doubt that many marriages run into communication problems at some point. There is a communication epidemic. The National Institute of Marriage has created marriage counseling programs and resources utilizing a structure that is the most powerful format they have found for helping couples who feel stuck and hopeless. They have designed several programs to help couples move past the barriers and experience the marriage of their dreams.
NIM’s Intensive Marriage Counseling Programs are unique from weekly marriage counseling in three distinctive ways:

· Intensive Marriage Counseling Format: Committing to an extended amount of concentrated time like the 2 or 4 day Marriage Intensive allows people to get to the root of the problem and stick with it in order to work through it. If you’ve been in traditional marriage counseling before, you may have experienced how you spend the first half catching up from the week before, the second half getting into the real issues, and then the time is gone. The Intensive format is designed so that people have the chance to go deeper without many of the other distractions of daily life and have enough discuss to consider solutions.

· Efficiency: One of the first steps in the process is an extensive assessment with some questionnaires. This allows the therapists to gather background information and can get an idea of the best strategy to proceed before you arrive for your session.

· Marriage Counselors: The counselors at the National Institute of Marriage are specialists in this area. One analogy we like to use is that of the Mayo Clinic: people go to their regular physician but may be sent to a specialist to work with specific areas. The NIM marriage therapists have been trained in this format to maximize its effectiveness. Also, the NIM marriage counseling programs provide the perspectives and insight of two professionals rather than one.
If you are considering divorce, you must try the National Institute of Marriage before giving up. They have developed a continuum of care that meets couples wherever they may be in their relationship. Regardless of the health of their marriage they have a service that can help couples improve their marital satisfaction. Visit their website at http://www.nationalmarriage.com. Read the incredible testimonies from the couples that saved their marriages by attending a Marriage Intensive at the National Institute of Marriage.”

Do it for yourself, do it for your spouse.

Posted on November 19, 2008 by Holdin' Holden 1 Comment
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